June 28, 2017 Catherine Mendoza 10Comments

“I thought I wasn’t lucky in romance especially when distance became an issue. It wasn’t that bad; it just wouldn’t work out. But this time, it’s different.”

He asked, “What’s it like?”

He had no idea how long-distance relationship works.

For the record, I already had 5 years in total in this kind of thing.

Why don’t you try again?” he asked as though he was hinting on something.

NO,” I answered firmly. I still have some issues about, and perhaps some sort of attachment with my past romance.

 

He didn’t reply. We continued to chill out in silence on the beach. It was the first time we spent time together as super friends. We were still strangers to each other, not even sweet, nor was no sign of romance in the air.

I went back to Manila. He stayed in Cebu, hopping from one island to another and kept in touch, though.

He wanted to see me again. It was probably love at first sight for him. (I presumed. As for me, I wasn’t attracted to him. I even thought he was creepy by the way he stared me.) I couldn’t tell him the personal reason why  I couldn’t see him, so I simply reasoned that I was busy at work and couldn’t afford to venture into another trip as I had just got back from one.

( Although, deep inside me, I also wanted to see him again too! )

The most surprising thing happened, I found myself taking a flight to Bohol to see him again and spend a week vacation at a hotel resort. Then, I made a life changing decision (that’s for another writing).

He proved to me later on that people, sometimes, are prone to bad impressions. We may not like them at first because we didn’t feel any interest. But connection doesn’t happen overnight. It takes a while to touch someone’s heart. As the days went by, there was some feeling growing stronger inside me. And that sort of thing that’s exciting.

I took the flight and met with him. He picked me up from the port in Bohol. Our second meeting was cool. There were no pretentions, no dramas, no boundaries. We were natural. He confessed his feelings for me which surprised me, because honestly, I had never met a guy who was as gentleman, as decent and as candid as he is. That’s why I admire him greatly.

And although I forewarned him that I wasn’t keen on falling in love again (because he’s a traveler), he persevered. (Fact: Real Men know what they want and they pursue it) Remember Why I didn’t want to fall in love with a traveler.

Despite that, he showed me how willing he was to start a new journey with me. My heart knew something was about to go right.

“For the first time in my life, someone is going to take me and our relationship seriously without considering distance a hindrance.  He’s a very thoughtful person with a genuine personality and sensible  that added to my affection for him. I must admit, though, I was more experienced in this kind of relationship but I was kind of dithering, perhaps because it was real”

The trip ended, sadly. He flew back to Germany, and I returned to Manila. It’s crazy.

We’ve known each other for only a couple of months, but if feels like we’ve been together for ages. When we were about to part ways at the airport in Cebu, we were sobbing like kids. It was like a movie scene. Everybody was staring at us. I handed him a letter saying thank you for the good times that made him shed tears even harder. ( Men love letters, it makes them feel love ) Then, I boarded the plane.  By far, that’s one of my most favorite travel stories.

Love means taking risks. Distance should not matter. If two are willing to be together again, what’s distance? Even if we’re a thousand miles away, he’s always supportive. From helping me in my plan to move abroad to small cute random stuff.  Love can make you do hilarious things sometimes, and that’s just adorably sweet.

You shouldn’t doubt love. You shouldn’t doubt your feelings.  Love happens at an unexpected moment, but what excites us the most is the story that’s going to grow despite the distance. I told him I couldn’t do this long-distance relationship for the rest of my life and gladly, “We’re on the same page! We share the same vision and goal.”  Distance is just temporary. Bliss at its finest.

Fate. We can’t tell what the future holds. We don’t know what tomorrow brings, but whatever that is, all I know is that we’re meeting again in August! And I can’t wait for another beautiful adventure with this sweet blue-green-eyed guy who never fails to bring out the best in me! And because of that, he gives me the meaning of real love. In the end, I swallowed my own words of not entertaining someone who’s miles away from me. It doesn’t matter now. He changed my belief about the (in)existence of real men. One  absolute thing that he made me realize is, real men exist. And they’re not afraid to show their love.

If you ever found someone like him, don’t ever let him go. He is someone who’s worth keeping and worth every single mile. 

So far, he’s one of the main reasons why I love Bohol. How about you? Do you have a similar story? Have you met someone so special during your travels? 

P.S. He’s the one who took this photo of me on the beach that first day.

                                                                    Thanks for reading! ♡

  • Lara

    Lovely! I kind of can relate but I don’t want to share yet. You should be having guest posts too! So they can share some of their similar story! 😊

  • Jec

    I was believed that long distance relationship sucks. But from your story, I guess I’ll give another shot. It’s just a matter of right decision and taking risks.
    Good luck on your travel this August with him! Will tune in for more of your love stories. Thumbs up! 🙂

  • You thought you weren’t lucky in love? Adik ka ba?! Hahahaha.. So ano palang tawag sa kin kung sa lagay na yan you thought you were unlucky. On the contrary, luck is always on your side in this department. You never had to wait so long to find love unlike me lol.

    I think you know already that I was very doubtful about this relationship the first time you mentioned this to me. I told our friends, I want to be proven wrong because in the end I want you to be happy. And since you are happy with him wala na ko masasabi. So be thankful that you found this guy and make sure to reciprocate his kindness and his love. Goodluck to you two!

  • hahhhaa maybe when distance is involve Marge! HAHA Ouy hindi rin! I had to wait and you know all of those that had happened to me! haha thanks so much for your support! We are truly friends! indeed, he’s so amazing and I couldn’t ask for more. He actually changed my belief about real men. Thank you ! Wishing you all the luck in the world too! X

  • Long distance sometimes does suck, that’s so true and actually so difficult. But like what I’ve said, it only works if two people have the same goal and vision. Just give it a shot, you go girl! There’s no harm in trying! Just keep loving! Yeey! Can’t wait too! haha tune in for more kilig stories! Thanks loves for your support! X

  • hahaha sure! I’ll think about guest posts! Thanks! Sure you did kind of relate to this! You found a real man too! X

  • Ikaw na tlga Cathy! Matinde ang kamandag hahaha jk! Anyway, we’re seeing you as a happy girl again and we’re happy that this guy is bringing this happiness to you! I hope you last and invite mo kami ah! Hahaha! Ingat and we love you lots Cathy!

  • I’ve never come across a post that talks about love and travel in the same breath. I have never fallen in love so cannot quite empathise with you but am sure that your feelings have a ring of truth and honesty in them. Be clear in your feelings and the universe will conspire to help you out of tough situations.

  • Amir Arsad

    I found this blog through Couchsurfing because i’m looking for host in Manila and i will be in Manila next week. This is my 2nd time to be in Manila and my 3rd time to be in Philippines.

    I read your story and it reminds me about why Manila is my favorite destination and make me feel want to come back again. Because i found love in Manila but our relationship can’t be happened. Now i moved on but i still want to come back again to Manila, maybe to take back my broken pieces of heart. LOL.

  • I believe that fate always plays a hand in our destinies. Distance should not matter. If you are happy thats fabulous! I hope you stay that way for many years to come!